Stop “saving” people (you can’t anyway)
And while we're at it, let's talk about what it might take to save yourself...
I’m going to cut right to it:
Do you take every piece of advice you give your clients?
Do you also do things that help that you don’t teach them to do?
Are you feeling burnt out and out of alignment with your work for any reason?
There’s nowhere on the internet that’s safe to discuss these questions and it’s keeping a lot of otherwise smart, committed people stuck.
Because if you can’t admit that there’s a problem, it gets infinitely harder to solve it.
The truth is that part of being a true expert is embodying the scientific process.
And that looks something like this:
You have a hypothesis.
You do everything you can to prove the hypothesis wrong.
You adapt your hypothesis based on results.
Repeat
The problem is that in today’s world, instead of disproving our hypotheses, we’ve been encouraged to p-hack the data into whatever shape the gurus say the market will buy.
We’re taught to cover up insecurities and inconvenient questions. “It’s just imposter syndrome”, you’re told.
And then you’re told to get over it.
And what you end up with is a process that technically works. That should work. That works on paper but that has a hidden underbelly.
That underbelly scares you.
And rightly so. Because it does kinda seem like the whole world is avoiding it too.
So it becomes like the boogeyman under the bed. You don’t know if it’s actually there, how big it is, whether you could take it down… or anything about it at all…
And so your fear of it grows.
And avoiding it becomes a habit.
You’re not alone.
I would be willing to venture that 80% of coaches and “experts” out there live like this.
And instead of running away and living scared, I’d love to invite us all to peer under the bed together.
To see what’s really there and face it with courage and curiosity.
How?
1. By having group discussions about the various ways that our method works and doesn’t work.
2. By interviewing the 20% that are true experts on exactly how they got to be that way and how they handled the boogeymen in their method.
3. By being asked thought-provoking questions that you can reflect on and bring into your work
This is what I have planned for us in The Process Collective. As far as I know it will be the world’s first think tank for coaches, consultants and healers to really dig into their unique methods and develop them beyond something “good enough”.
I’m talking about excellence.
Mastery.
Innovation.
Work that changes the world.
This isn’t everyone’s priority, but I know that for a select few, it’s what gets us out of bed in the morning.
Want in? Here’s your chance.
I can’t wait to share what I’ve been learning behind the scenes.
xoxo
Geeta
PS: If you have a business buddy that also has a high drive for excellence, please forward this post to them. We’ll go so much further together.